The topic of modesty is always about what type of clothes we can or cannot wear. There is so much more to modesty than clothes though!
Why do people wear short skirts? Why do people wear revealing tops? Why do people wear tight dresses? The honest answer would normally be to get someone else’s attention.
On the other hand, why do people wear long skirts or dresses? Why do people choose not to wear shorts that barely cover up anything? Why do people choose not to wear bikinis? The honest answer to this question would normally be because we are secure in the fact that we already have the most important person’s attention. God’s.
Modesty is not about clothes. It’s about security.
When we are secure in God’s unfailing and unending love and affection, we don’t need the approval or attention of fleeting human beings (specifically boys, ladies). Other people’s attention and affection cannot even come close to matching the security you have in Christ. You will always be loved no matter what you wear or how you look with Him.
Because of this security, I can choose to value God’s love and perfect ways over other people’s opinions. And it is so freeing!
I don’t choose to cover up my body so that no one else will see it. I choose modesty because Jesus sacrificed His life for mine! Can I then not sacrifice a little bit of comfort in the summer heat?
I choose to save my body for my future husband because I not only respect him, but I also respect myself. I respect that my body is a dwelling place for Jesus and His Holy Spirit. The Bible calls it a temple.
Our motives are so important to everything that we do. If your motive is to grab other people’s attention, let me ask you this: Do you realized that God loves you more than those other people combined ever could? Do you believe that His love is greater because it is unconditional and all-forgiving?
These truths are what inspires and motivates me to choose modesty. I no longer need the approval of others to be secure in who God made me to be.
During the winter season, it’s pretty easy to dress modestly. In New York, if you don’t have every inch of you covered, you could end up with frostbite. That’s enough motivation for people who don’t normally even choose modesty!
But, with the summer months coming, I know that it’s more of a struggle! It gets hot, and it can be hard to stay comfortable and modest. So, here are some of my favorite tips to use in the summer.
1. Wear Dresses
I love wearing dresses no matter what time of year it is! I love things that are pretty and feminine, so especially in the summer, dresses are my go to! Dresses can also keep you cool during the heat of the summer and make things more comfortable.
2. Wear Shorts Or Leggings Under Short Skirts Or Dresses
When a dress or skirt is too short, leggings come in pretty handy! They can add a layer of modesty while still looking nice as well!
For any dresses or skirts that are above my knee, I always wear shorts underneath. This protects from any slips or mishaps, especially when I am taking care of kids!
3. Maxi Skirts
A few years ago maxi skirts were super in style! However, this year’s trend seems to be short skirts again. So, even though it may not be everyone else’s choice, remember that you are secure in Christ and don’t be afraid to choose something that’s not “in.” I love maxi skirts because they are comfortable and practical! You can get them in any price range, and they also make it easier in the heat.
4. “Look Down” Test
Do you ever wonder if a shirt or top is too revealing? The easiest way to tell is to just look down. If you can see any cleavage, that means whenever you bend over even slightly, so will others. A tank top or cami is a quick and easy fix for this!
5. The “Bend Over” Test
If you are wondering if your skirt or dress are too short, just bend over. If anything even gets close to showing, put some shorts or leggings on underneath!
Also, if you are wondering if your leggings aren’t thick enough and will be see through, do the same thing! If they are, get some thicker ones, or put something long over top.
6. The “Raise Your Arms” Test
If you think a shirt is too short (ehem, like crop tops), raise your arms straight above your head. If your stomach shows, either plaster your arms down to your side or put a cami or tank top underneath it. I personally love long shirts that go right down over your butt!
I hope hearing that other people are not afraid or ashamed to choose modesty inspires you to do the same! We may stand out from the rest of the crowd, but guess what? We are supposed to! God calls us to live differently from the rest of the world! Be secure in His love for you.
What is your favorite modesty tip for the summer?